Share Your Story
You can inspire others and maybe even save a life when you share what you are going through. Women (and men) who can see themselves in another’s story can begin to identify the abuse. Once we learn we have been targeted, we can embark on the journey back to our true selves. When we write our story, a part of us heals.
Our stories offer insight, shining a light on that which is so often hidden and kept secret.
A person seeking help is trying to understand what has just happened, and your story might be the rope she clings to for hope.
No one can fathom how breathtakingly awful narcissistic abuse is…
Our stories are important.
Our stories provide a means through which others can understand abuse in its context, and they connect us. Reading a story helps you feel not so alone and isolated, a stark contrast to how we feel while in the grip of abuse. Our stories offer insight, shining a light on that which is so often hidden and kept secret. Alone in our dilemma, breaking free seems almost impossible. What if you knew you weren’t crazy?
It’s true, to share is often embarrassing, for victims and abusers hold no societal boundaries. Abusers are from all walks of life, and emotional abuse can often be hidden behind a charitable mask of kindness and thoughtfulness. A person with a charming smile or a well-accoladed do-gooder might be the one who belittles your intelligence behind the curtain of normalcy. A person seeking help is trying to understand what has just happened, and your story might be the rope she clings to for hope.
When we share our stories with the uninformed, we are met with bewilderment, judgment, and a lack of understanding. Our families want to help, us but they may not know how. Our friends want to grab ahold of us, but we stay in our dark corners for it is often much easier to remain isolated (in our relationships and in our thoughts) than to fight to be free.
Your story might just encourage another victim to break free.
How long does it take? I’m often asked. I’ve been married for years, and to leave means my whole life will change. Or I have three kids with him, who will help me survive? Or She is a very popular actress, no one will believe me. Or My church believes I should stay. The dilemmas go on.
It could be you extending the life rope.
Psychological abuse almost admittedly requires us to keep everything secret. It doesn’t help when we are punished and prosecuted for sharing the truth. We face smear campaigns by the abuser and possible extradition from families when we stand firm in our boundaries. Police and other authorities refuse to believe us, and unfortunately in the US, psychological abuse is not a crime, therefor we withhold stories of our lives that could benefit others. Our stories are not pretty or even believable, or we would have already told them. However, be assured, they do have a place with those who understand.
We might look dramatic, unhealthy, toxic, or crazy. But not here. Narcissist-Free.com is a caring environment, carefully monitored so that you feel comfortable.
It takes a special kind of strength to survive abuse.
Speaking out means taking a risk. It’s not easy, however, please realize you have all the strength you need already within. Our stories require courage and strength to share but remember: it is only a strong and courageous person who can withstand being in any kind of relationship with a toxic person. It takes a special kind of strength to survive abuse. Look at yourself now. You’re here, breathing, living, moving, thinking (and hopefully preparing to write).
We act as if we are OK, but inside we are hiding a hurt
The narcissist is not the only person who has two sides. We also have two aspects to our humanness: the broken hurting, anxious, angry self and the one we present to the world, to our children, our bosses, our friends. We act as if we are OK, but inside we are hiding a hurt so deep that no one can fathom how breathtakingly awful it is — as if someone has torn up our insides and left us there to wither away. Sharing your story helps to release that hurt. Exposing the carefully packed away experiences brings light to the abuse and will, in the end, free you from that which seeks to hold you back.
If you’d like to submit a story for review, please fill out the form below. You can link to a Google doc or upload a file of your story. Your story is precious and the utmost care will be taken when reviewing it.
Please read our terms below. No profanity, identifying names, defamatory content, or anything that might identify the abuser. Once your story is received, you should receive an email confirmation as well as a reply from the editor of narcissistfree.com. If you have any questions, feel free to contact us.
